Home Altar – Blessing Your Space

by Corby Ingold

Every home has a heart. More recent traditions equate this heart with the kitchen, where the family gathers to cook and share food. And certainly the gathering of family and clan and the daily sacrament of partaking of the nourishment that Earth Mother provides for us is sacred in the highest sense. An important component of this sacredness, however, is fire: the element that actually cooks our food and releases, as the Chinese say, it’s innate virtue or chi, “life force”. In ancient times the fire itself was an altar and the food cooked a divine offering or communion in which both humans and the ancestors, spirits and Gods took part.  So in this sense the fire or hearth around which the family gathered was the sacred center, or heart, of the home.

Today, for the most part, we no longer use the element of fire in its most basic form to cook our food. Mostly we rely upon gas or electricity, transmuted forms of fire, for our culinary needs. However, fire is still kindled, in it’s most raw and basic form, upon millions of altars around the world. Much has been written by cultural anthropologists about the differences between “civilized” and primitive, or primal, peoples. One of the most salient characteristics that separate most of us in the developed nations from our third world, indigenous brothers and sisters is the presence in the home of a personal or family altar. Though seldom remarked upon in ethnographic literature, the presence of an altar of some kind distinguishes most non-Western peoples from those of us in the industrialized world. Since the absence of reverence or even recognition of the sacred is one of the characteristics of contemporary Western society, this should come as no surprise.

As more and more people in the developed nations awaken from addiction to endless self indulgence and exploitation of the Planet’s dwindling resources, they experience the sharp pain of our alienation from each other, the natural world, and the spiritual dimension. This almost unendurable pain is enough to drive many back into the artificial womb of drugs, alcohol, compulsive shopping and mindless television. However, those who are willing to endure the pangs of alienation and persist in the quest soon become aware of a need for both personal and planetary healing and realignment. After a bit of meditation and experience it becomes clear that one of the strongest elements of this healing is the re-establishment of a personal relationship with the Divine, both in each other and in nature. This relationship, in order to grow and become strong, requires cultivation. The personal or family altar is the place where this burgeoning relationship with Spirit is most easily cultivated and pursued. It is to the altar that we go regularly to sing, to pray, to meditate, to grieve, to seek renewal from the inexhaustible Source of All.

The personal, home or family altar can become a touchstone for us in trying to maintain balance between the unseen, but strongly felt, spiritual realms and the demands of living in the fast paced world of the Twenty- First century. I have often talked with friends who have expressed the difficulty of following a spiritual path, or even staying reasonably grounded and centered amidst the pressures of home, school, job and family responsibilities. I have experienced this myself am am well acquainted with the frustration of watching all my good intentions to keep up a spiritual practice, or even just a few minutes of prayer and meditation, go down the tube when life gets busy.

This is where the maintenance of a personal shrine or altar can be of such value. The simple fact of having a place in one’s home dedicated solely to the sacred and to the pursuit of our own personal relationship with spirit, however we personify it, encourages us in our spiritual lives. Once the altar is properly set up and “charged” with our spiritual intentions, it has a way of radiating that intention outwards through the home. In this way the altar truly becomes the home’s heart, a potent source of invisible blessings that grant protection not only to the home, but to all who dwell within it. In addition, because of the peculiar aliveness which the altar acquires after charging and consecration, it will have the effect of grabbing our attention every time we pass before it or enter the room it resides in. It will serve as a daily reminder of our spiritual inspirations and resolutions, no matter how dismal the world outside may seem. In this way the altar uplifts us when we’re feeling down or carrying any kind of negative energy. The altar is a place to bring these negative feelings, let them out through simple prayers and rituals, and turn them over to Spirit.

As we pass before our altar we may feel called to pause, say a prayer, meditate for a few moments, light a candle or incense, chant or ring a bell. These simple acts, for which our altar becomes a constant reminder, call us back into relationship and connection with life and Spirit, and banish negativity, fear and isolation. Just as a medicine bag, cross, or crystal worn about the neck can be a potent amulet protecting the wearer against unseen misfortune, so the altar becomes an amulet within the home, banishing unwanted presences by the positive energy it radiates. Further, it becomes a true talisman, attracting those beneficient forces that effectually cleanse and bless the home and inhabitants.

The best part of setting up a home altar is that it’s actually fun to construct. Your own personal creativity and inspiration can set the tone. Since your altar is only yours, or yours and your family’s, there’s no particular way that it needs to look or be. Of course, if you follow a specific tradition of spirituality, then you may wish to align your altar with the requirements of that tradition. Even here, though, there is often a fair amount of room for expressing your own creativity and aesthetic approach. How and where will the altar be placed? This requires some thought and meditation. A perusal of books on feng shui and the art of placement could be helpful here. This is where an altar consultant, a specialist in altars who offers their services to those seeking to create a personal altar, can be of value to the fledgling altar builder. Next, of what will you construct your altar? Perhaps a table placed against one wall in your bedroom; perhaps a beautiful burnished piece of hardwood set across two upright river rocks; perhaps even a hanging shelf altar in the corner of your dining room or kitchen. There are many kinds of altars. Over the years I have made many kinds of altars, from temporary ones in the woods, to household shrines, both elaborate and simple, to full ritual altars for use within a specific tradition. Today there are a number of altars in my home, some of them quite small and unobtrusive. I often construct ones in public parts of the home so that they are not immediately recognizable as altars to casual visitors. Again, this is a matter of choice.
Once the placement and form of the altar has been selected, there is then the engaging process of decorating it in just such a way that it becomes, for us, truly a home for the divine.

This is where a lot of the creativity and enjoyment of altar construction comes in. Here we can afford to be leisurely and listen to divine inspiration and guidance. We should assume the attitude that Spirit knows just how it wants it’s house to be, and in the creation and maintenance of that house we are servants of the divine. This simple realization adds a great deal of meaning to the process. We begin to consider, do we want a bare altar top, perhaps to reflect the beautiful wood or stone of the altar’s surface, or do we require a special altar cloth? Meditation upon the right color, fabric, etc., may be necessary before we go shopping. What shall we place upon our altar? Will it be fancy or simple? Perhaps it will change, reflecting our changing spiritual needs. In earth-based forms of spirituality such as Druidry, Wicca, and shamanism, the altar may change to reflect the changing seasons of nature.

As mentioned above, fire in some form is present on most altars. Will you have votive lights or tapers, tall brass candlesticks, or a floating wick in a blue glass bowl? What about water? Fire’s balancing opposite, a quintessential element in our bodies and within the body of Earth Mother herself. Shall we have water in a silver or crystal chalice reminiscent of the Holy Grail? Or shall we use a simple stone bowl, elegant yet primal? Do we plan to use incense, or a sage and cedar smudge stick in an abalone shell? What about icons, images and photographs? A small Tibetan Buddha, a picture of Our Lady of Guadalupe, or photographs of ancestors, grandmothers and grandfathers – a feature of many altars around the world. Then there are special stones, feathers, seashells, any unusual or beautiful natural object that you feel strongly pulled to place upon your altar. Of course, none of these items are essential to your personal altar if they dont appeal to you. Remember, it’s your altar and it doesn’t have to conform to any particular blueprint. Here again, the altar consultant can be of service in helping to define and design an altar appropriate to you.

Over time I have found that my personal household altar radiates hidden yet potent spiritual energy, in the form of blessings and protection, outwards through my house and into the surrounding neighborhood. It becomes a talisman that I can draw upon when I’m feeling stressed or out of balance. Through maintaining contact with my altar and various household shrines I can draw upon their beneficial effects even when I am away from home. It appears that through regular work with a personal altar, a type of resonance is set up that can be a touchstone for beneficial forces, regardless of time or distance. Once the altar becomes truly empowered, merely by thinking of it in a prayerful way we can receive a beam of the healing and protective energies for which it has become a battery.

Poised at a major crossroads of Native American and native European cultures, of ancient traditions and modern technology, of individual transformation and global vision, Corby Blackmoon Ingold continues his personal journey, sharing his  tales, maps, and guideposts along the way. Visit his website at www.corbyingold.com

Kali – Birthing the New

Artwork by Jena FuentesKali: Birthing the New

by Karen Hansen PhD, LMHC

[F] emale friendships are often compelling, life affirming, joyful and cherished, but complex. Why do some friendships succeed and others fail? When a friendship becomes troubled how do you know whether to hang on or let go? What do you do when you hit a rough spot? Letting go of a female friendship can be as painful as breaking up with a significant other.

We had been there for each other through thick and thin, turned to each other for laughs or advice and here she was, lacking any enthusiasm. Something about her lukewarm response on the phone about my new relationship should have been my first red flag. She clearly reacted cool to this new development in my life. But I went ahead and made the trip to her home where she made little effort to get to know who I saw as my sun and moon. Come to think of it, she had never really warmed up to any of my love interests. That night in our hotel room I was crying incessantly. I think I knew deep down that this impasse the two of us had reached after many years of friendship was the beginning of the end.

[I] nstead of being assertive I just felt hurt, tired and angry. I couldn’t see how she could be a part of this future chapter of my life. There had been times we talked out the changes we saw happening in our lives. Like when she got married or after the birth of her child. But this time everything wasn’t about her. It would be all about me, the bride, and that proved to be difficult.

The image of Kali came to my mind. I remembered a rite of passage I had done letting go of a stressful work environment using Kali in meditation. I quieted my mind and breathed through my heart posing the question, “Is it truly for the highest and finest good for me to release this friendship?” I see an image of Kali slicing her sword in front of me and her saying, “You know that friendship was over a long time ago already, you just held on hoping it would change. You two have done all you were meant to do together for now.”  A quiet came over me. I imagined Kali cutting the cords of this relationship with her sword for the highest good of all concerned.

[K] ali is one of the most famous Hindu goddesses. There is a dark side of Kali I even don’t intend to talk about, because it scares me. I found her story and image at first intimidating. She is not submissive. Kali is a wild and fierce fighter. She is also a mother of four and has had a close connection in history with crops and fertility. But as archeo-mythologist Maria Gimbutas reminds us, ‘symbols of death always appear with symbols of rebirth such as the lotus flower. One does not come without the other, although we may not see it at the time.’  Kali made me look at my own dark side, my shadow too. I wasn’t always a stellar friend and had to ask myself, “Maybe I’m like her too”. There had been some drama between the two of us around her wedding. Had I not been there for her? Marriage is not only a new joyful beginning, but also brings endings. According to Liz Greene’s tarot deck “Death” is the card symbolizing marriage. It is gain through loss and that loss must be acknowledged and mourned. I was soon to rediscover this lesson in my personal rite of passage from single to married as I deeply mourned the ending of this friendship.

How do you know when to let go of a female friendship? I don’t think there are any rules in how to end a friendship or like humpty dumpty, how to put it together again.

I’m over that friendship drama. I send her good thoughts and hope all is well with her. Although, I have to admit I wonder what would happen if our paths will cross someday. Would we will laugh at how silly we were, letting bygones be bygones? Or would it be an awkward, icy reunion? I’m at peace knowing that gain and loss are intertwined. I trust as I have with other bygone friendships that someone new will come along. Often a new friend reflects where we are going ourselves, the unique path we are on and the life lessons we need to learn.

Meditation

Surround yourself with bubble of light and make an inner connection with a spiritual being. In front of your third eye imagine a movie screen 3 inches in front of you and pull up an image of someone you want to release for the highest good. See the cords connecting you both at your chakras: throat, heart, diaphragm and stomach. Now gently cut the cords between the two using a scissors, seeing the ends dissolve with love to their own transformation in the white light. Surround yourself with a healing blue light being thankful for all you learned in this relationship.

Karen Hansen is offering ‘Feminine Faces Class’ September 24 and October 22 in Snohomish, WA. Experience the power of 13 inner characters symbolizing the light and dark faces of the feminine. Classes include Guided Meditation, Movement, Communing with Nature and more.  Visit her website at www.TranspersonalTherapy.com for more information and to register.

Mastering Time – You CAN Do It.

by Cay  Randall – May

You are on the way to meet a friend for lunch. You’re running behind schedule and the other drivers seem to have joined in a plot to keep you from arriving on time. A glance at your watch confirms the sinking feeling in your stomach. How can you manage to keep your appointment?

Most people in this situation would drive faster and risk a speeding ticket, hypertension, or an accident. Schedule books, calendars, clocks and conventional time management schemes reinforce the view that time is a limited commodity which must be used efficiently. This is common sense, but unnecessarily stressful. There is a more natural, more spiritual approach to time management.

Another Way
To understand this other approach, we must look at time as relative, not absolute. Albert Einstein predicted that time is related to the speed of an object. This concept was a major challenge for the Western mind and still remains outside the ordinary experience of most people. Time may prove relative for future space travelers, but is that important on your way to the luncheon?

Yes, if only to remind us that we have some control over time. I’m talking about useful, usable time. The truth is, what we focus on, we perceive. We focus through our thoughts which are very much influenced by our physical and emotional state at the moment. Long ago I discovered that I could actually expand or contract my perceived time to accomplish more or avoid long tedious waiting periods.

Natural Resources
There is nothing magical about this approach. It is perfectly natural. Our stress level determines how fast or slow time seems to be moving. Extremes of emotional tension, shock, or even profound relaxation can distort time so much that it seems to not exist at all. But most of everyday life is spent in a lower level, chronic stress state that we can be calmed in various ways: prayer, meditation, deep breathing, yoga, walking, peaceful visualization. These approaches to relaxation clear our thoughts, make us feel safer, and we seem to have more time.

So, getting back to your immediate situation, you’re late for the lunch appointment with your friend. Most people would become tense, anxious. They would breathe in shallow gasps. Under pressure to get to their goal, they would not pay attention to their surroundings and this could lead to various mishaps.

Self Talk and Breathing
Instead, turn on soft, preferably classical music. Focus your attention on a positive statement, such as, “I have all the time I need.” Notice the small details around you, especially when driving or walking in crowded conditions. Breathe deeply and slowly.

Focus is the key to expanding time. The present is all we have, and we have all the time in the world to be in it. Agitation and anxiety distract us, waste our energy. Try the following demonstration if you need proof.

Ask a friend to time you as you try to guess when 30 seconds have passed. Cover your eyes during the test to avoid visual clues. Easy? Try it under two different conditions: first with some fast, rhythmic music; next with soothing, meditative music. Most people find they underestimate how long the time period is when listening to the fast music and are more nearly correct when the calm music is playing or in silence.

You can also try to guess a 30 second interval at different times of the day. Most people feel they have more time when they are fresh and calm; mood, blood sugar level, general state of health, and fatigue all play a part in time perception. Check your accuracy at different times of the day. If you are like most of us, you have periods during the day when you are fast or slow in your time sense.
If your time sense slows in the afternoon, for instance, you can listen to lively music or eat a high protein snack to compensate for the change in your body’s clock. That can help relieve the mid–afternoon slump that many people experience.

Coffee? Sugar?
But what about those times when you are called upon to work at peak performance? If you must write an essay, finish a report, or any other project with a tension–producing deadline there are some things you should know. Drugs, like caffeine or sugar, speed your sense of time. They make time seem to go faster.

Clutter does the same thing. Working in a small area heaped with papers, books, etc., drains energy and distorts time sense. Sensory overload of any kind will make time seem to go by faster.

Relaxation – Changing the Body’s Chemistry
Many spiritual disciplines and intuitive training programs include progressive relaxation, visualization, meditation and imaging which actually help to change the body’s chemistry. These practices expand usable time, stretch the ‘moment’ of perception. They allow us to be more observant of our outer and inner sensory input. Mastery of time perception is one of the best natural medicines and a useful tool for anyone who wishes to live life more fully.

Cay Randall–May is an internationally known Medical Intuitive and Healer. She teaches the principles of time expansion and many other techniques for self awareness and intuitive development in The Intuitive Pathway (TIP) program. email info@How2Heal.com for more information.

Meditation – Exposing the Illusion of Personality

By Ken Lloyd Russell ©

We all believe so firmly in the illusion that we are our personality because this personality always seems to be there; it appears to be a constant in our lives. But it is a mirage, like the lake viewed in the middle of the desert. The personality has no independent reality; yet it appears to have one because of the constant motion of the mind, which just keeps rolling along with virtually no breaks. It is this momentum that gives the illusion of substance, of a reality where none exists. This is most unfortunate because our belief in this illusion separates us from our true nature.

But there is something you can do to begin exposing this illusion.

It is a very simple exercise: periodically, just put your complete attention on three full breaths. Stop whatever you are doing, cease your thoughts, and become fully aware of the physical sensations that occur when you breath. Feel the air moving in and out of your nose or mouth and then into and out of your chest. Feel your chest and stomach rising and falling. Your eyes may be open or closed, depending on the situation and what feels comfortable. You are not to visualize or think about the physical sensations of breathing, but to actually feel and experience them. The essence of this exercise is being directly in touch with the physical sensations of your breath.

What gives this practice its potency is doing it totally—with your complete attention. Just be with your breath for a full three breaths, putting aside whatever your mind had been engaged with and not allowing any thoughts, images, or emotions to capture your attention. Simply be there with full attention for three breaths.

Again, the key is putting your total—100 percent—effort into it. Before doing the exercise, you may wish to remind yourself that three breaths take but a brief time, that you have plenty of time remaining during the day to plan, worry, fantasize, be elated or depressed, imagine, or whatever else the mind likes to indulge in. But now you have chosen to do something to benefit your self: these few moments of attention to your breath. You can do this as many times as you wish during the day.

You may find it easiest to do this exercise when you shift from one activity to another. A transition affords a small window of opportunity when there is less resistance because the mind is not actively engaged in something. Some people find it convenient to do the mini-meditation when they first get into their car or as soon as they arrive at their destination. It only takes a few moments. You can do it before returning a phone call or right after finishing one. Other convenient transitions are before or after a meal, or when going to the bathroom. Or you can do it randomly, whenever you feel like it. However, your intent will need to be clear to get around the mind’s resistance, which generally takes the form of forgetting.

Resistance arises because the mini-meditation, when done correctly, throws a monkey wrench into the gears of the mind’s momentum. By stopping the mind, just for this brief period of three breaths, you temporarily suspend its control over you, thus clearing the way for your true nature to begin to assert itself. You may actually get an intimation of your true nature, which is apart from the mind and is akin to God or Buddha or however you wish to envision the ultimate. This exercise is a powerful assist in coming back to the reality of your Self.

However much you might benefit from this practice, the mind will not relinquish its hold over you without a struggle. Resistance will manifest itself as forgetting to do the exercise or, when doing it, drifting off into thinking about or visualizing the breaths. The more successful you are in doing the exercise, the more resistance you will meet. To counter this resistance it helps to keep in mind the value you receive from doing it. This value will be clear when you do the exercise consistently for five days.

While powerful, the mini-meditation is not complete in itself as a spiritual path. It is suggested as an enhancement for your regular practice. For instance, if sitting meditation is your basic practice, the mini-meditation will help your meditations to go deeper. It can accomplish this because it reduces the momentum of the mind that meditation has to work against. Whatever your path, this exercise will tend to bring up suppressed or repressed emotions, so it is best to have some way of allowing those emotions to dissipate in and through awareness.

Normally, the mind diverts your attention from feelings or emotions that it finds uncomfortable by distracting you with thoughts, or by channeling the discomforting energy into derivative or smokescreen states like anger, anxiety, or depression. By using the term “smokescreen,” I am suggesting that the mind finds anger or anxiety more acceptable than the underlying fear or pain which prompts anger or anxiety. If the mind is not allowed to distract you, then hidden emotions will surface. This is exactly what we wish to happen. Then, through awareness, those emotions can be released from your consciousness. The unconscious is nothing more than thoughts or feelings of which we are not aware. Hidden emotions tend to bind up a lot of your energy and covertly influence you in ways that are not beneficial.

If you do the mini-meditation exercise regularly, over time you will notice a shift in your life; you will most likely become more and more present.

 

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