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Healing the World – Mothering Ourselves

Written by on April 26, 2012 · Leave a Comment

by Isha Judd

I was only four years old when my mother first told me that I was adopted. The news sent me into panic, and something inside me froze.

The shock of the situation was so great that it triggered a drastic change in me. Up until that moment, I had always been a very affectionate, innocent child. Afterward, I started to avoid all physical contact. I wriggled uncomfortably whenever someone tried to embrace me; I hated being touched in any way. I decided that overtures of love could not be trusted, because the people who loved me had lied to me. I came to expect dishonesty from anyone who showed me affection, rejecting all who came too close.

In order to escape, I created fantasy worlds where I would lose myself for hours, surrounded by the vast animal kingdom of my imagination. There the animals would talk to me; they were the only ones whose love I really trusted. Devoid of all human beings, this world became my favorite place. I would run for miles into the countryside in search of my animal friends, often escaping during the night, on the quest to find another world.

Although the circumstances vary, we have all been through an initial shock of abandonment and disillusion in our lives — a situation in which we felt unloved or rejected or that in some way exposed us to loss, change, or the uncertainty of external security. It might have been a schoolteacher telling us off in front of our classmates, the loss of a loved one, a divorce, or maybe something seemingly insignificant that perhaps we don’t even remember. These situations create the feeling of separation that is so integral to this human experience. Then, as we mature, we often find ourselves choosing relationships that create the same response. It is as if we are endlessly striving to prove that we really don’t deserve love, that we are not good enough to receive it.

By healing the accumulated resentment and tension of our past experiences, we can unravel the misunderstandings and reproachful memories that may have left us bitter, confused, or desolate. We can heal the emotional scars left by circumstances that seemed unjust, that made us feel like victims.

 

If you feel undeserving, unsupported, unloved, unnoticed, or undervalued because of events from your past, the feeling represents an opportunity to move closer to unconditional love and find greater internal completion. Generally, when we don’t know what to do with all these feelings, we learn to repress and ignore them. What happens then? When we suppress our feelings and judgments, we become them. When it comes to our relationships with our mothers, we act out this tendency by emulating the things we most hate about our mothers!

This is because although our mothers may no longer live in our homes, they still live in our heads, pushing us, criticizing us, chastising us. In one form or another, you will find that your mother is always present in those aspects of yourself that you have yet to embrace. Maybe you even gave birth to your mother, or married her. As long as you continue denying the negative feelings within yourself, the same patterns you established in your relationship with your mother will repeat in other relationships.

For most of us, our mother’s love forms our initial understanding of what love is. The service and selfless giving that mothering universally represents are qualities that we all must learn to emulate on our journey to self-realization.


In order to love unconditionally, we must first learn to love and accept ourselves exactly as we are. How can we embrace others in their perfection if we cannot first see our own? If we reject certain aspects of ourselves, unconditional love toward others can never be anything more than a hollow facade. Similarly, in order to mother the world, we must first learn to mother ourselves — to find the beauty and perfection of our own individuality and rejoice in our unique way of being. Then acceptance and love of others will naturally overflow to our friends and family and ultimately to our community and the world.

When we cultivate true love of self, the love that is present within radiates out to all beings, all peoples, and Mother Earth. Many talk about what we should do to better the world — respect basic human rights, care for the environment, and so on. It is nice that we remind ourselves to do these things, but, ideally, wouldn’t it be better if the desire to care and serve arose naturally and spontaneously within us? Then we wouldn’t have to think: it would just be an action. Ultimately, our own inner healing will cause these qualities to flourish — not because we are trying to behave responsibly, but because out of an open heart we are joyfully taking responsibility for nurturing and protecting life.

An individual focused on giving unconditional love is making the greatest contribution of all to the evolution of our planet. This gift to humanity comes through our own inner growth and advancement, a mothering of our self that births our own greatness, even as it brings out the greatness in others.

As you cultivate an unconditional love of yourself, you will find the unconditional love you seek to express for your children, parents, friends, and colleagues. You will become a universal mother: a mother of the world.

 

ISHA JUDD is the author of Love Has Wings and Why Walk When You Can Fly. She travels the globe teaching a simple, yet powerful system that shows how to find the state of mind she calls “love-consciousness,” where every moment of life — even the most challenging and frustrating — can be filled with love, joy, peace, and self-acceptance.
Visit her online at http://www.ishajudd.com

 

Excerpted from the book Love Has Wings: Free Yourself from Limiting Beliefs and Fall in Love with Life ?2012 by Isha Judd. Printed with permission from New World Library.

 

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Auriculotherapy – Do it Yourself at Home Ear Acupuncture

Written by on October 4, 2011 · Leave a Comment

From Constance Demby

You can do this at home – and there is a lot of info on the internet about
it… just keep clicking around to find what you want for your specific
needs.  Considering the increase in the general stress levels with the times
we are in, it might be handy to simply press an ear point to relieve stress…
Like – the relaxation point, tranquilizer point, stress point, master cerebral
point, muscle relaxation point, Master Sensorial, Master Cerebral, Shen Men,
Point Zero, etc

One article mentioned that once you find the point you want to work on, that
you can use an instrument with a blunt point on it, and push on the exact
ear point for the condition you choose to work on.

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Point Zero – This master point brings the whole body towards a general
homeostatic balance. Producing a balance of energy and energy flow. A
balance  of hormones and brain activity. Point zero serves as the “Autonomic
Brain” which  controls visceral organs.

 

Master Sensorial - used to reduce any unpleasant or excessive sensation.

Master Cerebral –  This master point represents the part of the brain which
makes  decisions and initiates conscious actions. Stimulation of this point
diminishes  nervous anxiety, fear, worry, obsessive-compulsive disorders,
psychosomatic  disorders, and the negative, pessimistic thinking … This
point helps to give you self control.

Shen Men – The essential function of the Shen Men point is to tranquilize
the mind  and allow a re-connection with your internal spirit. This master
point relieves stress,  pain, tension, anxiety, depression, insomnia,
restlessness, and excessive sensitivity.

Endocrine Point –  This master point brings endocrine hormones to their
proper  homeostatic levels, by either raising or lowering gland secretions.
It functions by  activating the pituitary gland below the brain, which is
the master gland controlling  all other endocrine hormone glands.

Stomach –  This point represents the gastric chamber. This point relieves
eating  disorders, diarrhea, indigestion, nausea, vomiting, stomach ulcers
and gastritis. It  also helps toothache, headaches, and stress. It is the
most commonly used  auricular point for weight control.

Thalmus –  This master point represents nervous connections to the cerebral
cortex. It regulates over excitement, restore tranquility, and reduces
sweating,  swelling, and shock. It reduces chronic pain by activating the
thalamic pain gate.  Regulates loss of restraint, improves self disciple.

Occiput –  The purpose of this point is to relieve occipital headaches,
tension  headaches and disorders of the nervous system.  Anti Depressant –
Relieves depression in general, reactive depression. The word  DIET in
itself is very depressive.

Mouth –  This ear point relieves eating disorders, mouth ulcers and cold
sores.

Appetite Control –  or hunger point, diminishes appetite. Facilitates in
weight loss.

http://mclemorechiropractic.com/index.php?p=190370

 

 

Frequently Asked Questions http://www.auriculotherapy.com
What is Auriculotherapy?  Auriculotherapy is the stimulation of the auricle of the external  ear for the diagnosis and treatment of health conditions in other  parts of the body. It is also known as ear acupuncture or auricular  acupuncture when the stimulation is achieved by the insertion of
acupuncture needles, whereas the term auriculotherapy often refers  to  electrical stimulation of the surface of ear reflex points. Specific  points on the ear can also be stimulated by manual pressure, referred  to as
auricular acupressure or ear reflexology. Acupuncture points  on the ear can  also be stimulated with lasers, magnets, and ear  pellets.

 

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Healthy Choices for Healing Through Life’s Transistions

Written by on September 10, 2011 · Leave a Comment

Kasara D’Elene,  LHMC

Part of life is going through transitions.  Changing jobs, moving, divorce, stopping smoking and losing a loved one, are just a few of transitions that move us into another direction.  Sometimes transitions are easy for people – this article is to help the times that aren’t easy.

The first thing I would highly recommend is to scream!!! Yes, scream – find a place, in your car, your bedroom, outside in the forest – somewhere where people won’t think you are physically injured and scream – let it loose – scream from your core, from your toes, with every breath you have – let it all out, as loud as you can.  You will be surprised how good it feels to let go of this noise, this emotion, the tension, etc.  It feels great!!  You can do this as often as necessary – there are no rules for screaming.

This is a healthy way to help let out all the energies that you would otherwise hang onto.  Energies that can not only prevent you from moving forward, but also can make you sick in the future.

Once that is done, it is important to support yourself when going through transitions.  Usually when people are going through hard times, they eat bad food, drink or smoke too much, or do other harmful things to try and avoid the pain, avoiding the feelings that are bottling up inside them.  Take it from someone who has been through many tough times – if you don’t look at the issues/feelings and pain now, it will stick around your body until you do. And if you don’t ever acknowledge them, they will do whatever it takes to get your attention until you pay attention to them.

It is usually better now than later. Granted, sometimes we are too weak to look at and deal with issues – and that is expected in some circumstances.  But eating right, getting fresh air, and being around others in a healthy environment can help give you the strength to then do this important work – of letting go, and moving forward.

Eating
Transitions, for some people, mean eating.  This can be binging on a bag of potato chips, or eating anything and everything in sight.  Unfortunately, people gravitate towards the poorer food choices during this time, which can only make things worse. When a person has a lot of grief, trying to bury it with food is common. It is easy to see why there are so many overweight people in America – when people don’t deal with their grief, it can manifest as weight gain very easily. Some people, on the other hand, lose weight. They stop eating. We see this often with women when they get divorced. They had all this extra weight, and no matter what they did, could not lose it – until they got divorced, and then it just literally fell off – without even trying.  The best thing is to eat and to eat high quality food – that will not only feed you nutritionally, but spiritually as well.  Putting food in your body with a high vibrational energy will help give you the energy you need. Comfort food is important – but within moderation is best.  Eating properly will give your body what it needs to not only get through this transition, but also to support you in finding the direction you may be looking for to move ahead.

Support
Some ideas to help you mentally are meditation, exercise, support groups and books. Meditation either by yourself, or with others, can help you find and be in a comfortable place mentally so you feel safe to let go of emotions.  Meditation can be very powerful for some people. It doesn’t cost anything, and you can get books and tapes at most libraries to help you find what meditation methods would work best for you.  Exercise is another important tool to help you work through transitions.  Just walking each day can help you get fresh air, and move toxins and old energies out of your body so that new healthy experiences will now be drawn to you.  There are a plethora of support groups.  Just look on the Internet, check at your school, library, or church.  Somewhere there are people that would love to help you, allow you to share your story and help you move forward in a healthy manner.  There are many support books out there, free at your local library or at most bookstores you will find a nice selection of self-help books that will give you ideas to help you get through your specific transition.

Support your Nervous System
Good chiropractic care helps keep the nervous system working optimally.  Many people think that chiropractors are just “back crackers” and that they only need to go when they have a back problem, when actually, a good chiropractic adjustment helps to facilitate the body’s correction of nerve interference.  I equate it the electrical system of our body, just like in our car.  When our nerves misfire, or are short-circuiting, we cannot be expected to think clearly or have our body work optimally, especially during stressful times, when our nervous system is being pushed to the limit.

Vitamins
Eating right is important, even more so when you are stressed or going through a difficult time.  When we are stressed, the first thing to get pulled out of our bodies is Vitamin C. So taking a Vitamin C supplement, or eating foods high in Vitamin C, such as broccoli, oranges, pineapple, asparagus, kale, lemons, mangos, onions and radishes is a great way to make sure you are getting enough for the excess that is being utilized by your body at this time. The next vitamin that is used by your body are all the B vitamins, B1 (Thiamin), B2 (Riboflavin), B3(Niacin), B6(Pyridoxine HCL) and B12(Cyanocobalamin).  Many of these B Vitamins are made in our small intestines by beneficial bacteria, also known as probiotics.  If you drink chlorinated water, take prescription drugs – especially antibiotics, or drink coffee or are under a lot of stress – your level of probiotics can be depleted. This is discussed in much more detail in the May issue of Voice of Choices.  The point is, it is important to take B Vitamins, in the foods we eat, in extra supplementation when we are depleted, and to make sure we have enough of the helpful bacteria that make these for us as well.

Other helpful tools
There are many other nutritional products that you may find useful, including adaptagenic herbs, homeopathics, and essential fatty acids.  The most popular adaptagenic herbs we use are Suma, Astragalus root, and Eleuthero root (which used to be commonly referred to as Siberian Ginseng, but isn’t a true ginseng).  Adaptagenic herbs are called this because they help us adapt to changes of any kind.  These can be taken individually, but we have a formula we recommend with all of these in it – and affectionately refer to it as our “happy pills”.  Many of our customers tell us that they love it because they know they are still going to go through the stress of their situation, but that this combination helps to take off the edge, and they don’t seem to care about or put so much energy in the issue as before, making their days happier, or at least much easier to get through.

Essential Fatty Acids
There are many substances that are high in essential fatty acids; fish, flax seeds, olive oil, avocados, nuts, coconuts, fish, etc.  Essential fatty acids (EFA’s) are extremely beneficial for our bodies as they feed the nervous system, circulatory system, digestive system, the skin, and act as anti-inflammatory in our bodies.  As reported in many publications over the past few months, it is best to rotate your sources of EFA’s, in other words, use your bottle of flax seed oil, then switch to fish oils, and then back. Your body will utilize it better. In addition it was announced that olive oil (the good expensive organic, cold-pressed virgin olive oil) was reported to be just as effective as ibuprofen in studies for pain as an anti-inflammatory.  All of these EFA’s are helpful when going through transitions by feeding the nervous system, to help keep you calm, helping with inflammation from stress and with the digestive and elimination systems which also are usually affected during stressful times.

Homeopathy
Homeopathy has been effectively used for a few hundred years throughout the world.  They work on the “like cures like” principle.  It may be best to see a homeopath, depending on your issue, so that they can take all factors into consideration to recommend the right homeopathic cure. There are homeopathic cures for headaches, insomnia, stomach issues, and for most other emotional issues, such as irritability and grief.  I particular use Ignatia Amara for grief and emotional upsets.  It is especially useful for people that eat too much to bury their grief.  I also recommend Gelsemium for a headache that is brought about from bad news or mental stress.  Also Chamomilla is wonderful for when someone is feeling irritable, which is common during transitions.

Flower essences (often seen as Bach Flower Remedies) are popular also for transitional times  – especially Rescue Remedy, which can also help pets and plants during transitions as well. Some other flower remedies, which you may find useful, are Walnut, for protection during changes, Star of Bethlehem for grief from bad events, and Aspen for fear of the unknown and unseen events that may be preventing someone from moving through changes effectively.

Change is a part of life. Unless we are paying attention, transitions can affect our health in a negative way. Especially if we bury the emotions we have, or if our bodies aren’t nutritionally fed, then we have nothing to pull from during these stressful times.  It is usually very important for us to go through changes, for remember that for everything we supposedly lose, new avenues are opening for us as well. Making it through difficult changes in a healthy way helps us to continue to grow as human beings and instead of setting us back, can catapult us into new growth and opportunity if we allow it to do so.

Kasara D’Elene  owner-operator of Tru-Health, LLC located at 18001 Bothell Everett Hwy, Suite L, is a certified herbalist with a degree in science.  Visit her website at www.truhealth.com or call 425-415-8410 or 800-242-7165.

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Healthy Choices – Healthy Gall Bladder

Written by on September 1, 2011 · Leave a Comment

By Kasara D’Elene  MS, LMHC

Some people believe that there is an emotion underlying each organ. The emotion for the gall bladder is expressed as bitterness.  You may have heard people say “that really galls me!”  Gallbladder issues are common these days and unfortunately many people opt to have their gallbladder removed which isn’t always the best option.  There are other choices and many people have used simple techniques to repair the gallbladder and flush gallstones, a common ailment successfully.  If you already have had your gallbladder removed there are actions you can take to help your liver to do the gallbladders job successfully helping you to maintain optimum health.

Organ Information
The gallbladder is a small sack that serves as a reservoir for the bile secreted by the liver.  It lies on the inferior surface of the liver to the right of the midline and joins the common bile duct via the cystic duct.  Because fats form large globules, they must be broken down into smaller particles to increase the surface area for digestion.  This is the function of bile.  Fats in the chime, (partially digested food) containing lipids or fats enter the duodenum.  This initiates a mechanism that contracts the gallbladder and forces bile into the small intestines, stimulating the secretion of the hormone cholecystokinin (ko-le-sis-toe-KYE-nin) or CCK from the intestinal mucosa of the duodenum.  This hormone then activates the gallbladder’s contraction, and bile flows into the duodenum.  Between meals, the bile moves up the cystic duct into the gallbladder. Gallstones are a common problem when the fluids in the body become too acidic.

If you want to read more about how your gallbladder works, I recommend a book called “Your Health, Your Choice” by Dr. M. Ted Morter, JR.,M.A.  He explains this, in lay language, on pages 69-75, including how the pH plays an important role, how sodium is a major factor and cholesterol’s role. Anybody thinking about gallbladder removal surgery should read this book first.

Anyone who has had their gallbladder removed should be diligent about improving their diet.  Removing an organ doesn’t improve health.  It may reduce symptoms, (and often times it creates more), but it doesn’t cure the underlying cause that brought about the symptoms.  People who must have their gallbladder removed are too acidic.  Unless they change the conditions that brought about the problem, they will remain acidic after the gallbladder and pain are gone, causing additional symptoms to crop up elsewhere.  Gallbladder disease is a symptom of overall physiological distress.  The problem is the person’s health, not whether or not they have a gallbladder.

 

Fats And The Gallbladder
The average American diet is heavily concentrated in fats and oils.  We not only consume too much of this calorie source, we tend to consume them in the wrong forms. However, all fats aren’t bad.  We need a certain amount to maintain health.  Without them we can’t absorb the fat-soluble vitamins A, E, D and K, and form healthy skin, hair capillaries and cell membranes. But, fats are needed in smaller proportions than we usually consume, and not all fats are alike.  Some fats are better for us than others.  How fats are digested and assimilated determine their effect on our health.

Flushing Out The Gall Bladder
Olive oil is often used to flush out the gall bladder. Generally people who are trying to flush out their gall bladder will fast for 24 to 48 hours on fresh, raw apple juice (or some other raw fruit or vegetable juice) to clear the colon.  Sometimes it is advisable to take an herbal laxative before as well.  Liver and gallbladder formulas may also help here. Check with your health professional to see what might work best for you. One might also wish to take Hydrangea (a stone solvent) as well.

Enzymes may also be useful and are available in many forms. Lipase is an enzyme that is used to help the body digest fats.  If you no longer have a gallbladder it is often recommended that this enzymes is used to assist the body in digesting fats.

These steps are not absolutely essential, but they do help prepare the body for the flush. Many people find using these tools they have a good experience doing a cleanse.  If your body is not prepared properly, people can have bad experiences including diarrhea or vomiting.

To start the cleanse, just before going to bed, after you have fasted or taken supplemental products for a week or so, drink ½ cup of cold pressed virgin olive oil and ½ cup lemon juice.  Mix these together thoroughly like you would shake up a salad dressing.  The lemon juice cuts the olive oil and makes it more palatable.  It sounds and smells worse than it tastes.  Next, lie on your right side for one half hour before going to sleep.  In the morning, if you don’t have a bowel movement, try an enema.  Generally, you will pass some dark black or green objects, which look like shriveled up peas.

There are a number of versions of this procedure, but they all rely on olive oil.  This is because the olive oil acts as a solvent of cholesterol, the chief constituent of gallstones.

 

Fried Foods
One of the biggest favors you will ever do for your gallbladder is to quit eating fried foods.  Every time you heat oil, you create free radicals, which contribute to cancer, heart disease and aging.  The more the oil is heated, the more of these hazardous substances it develops.  Fast food restaurants often deodorize, filter and reuse the same oil for days or even weeks.  So, if you never go to another fast food restaurant in your life, you will be doing yourself a huge favor – sounds like a great resolution to me!

Sometimes staying away from fast foods is tough because we crave their products. Many health experts believe that if you have a constant craving for fats, it may because you have difficulty in digesting them.  In fact, any food we crave excessively probably contains nutrients we need, but are not digesting properly.  Many of my customers find that if they do a gall bladder cleanse, they will no longer crave fatty foods.

I have had many customers who have trouble taking essential fatty acid supplement such as fish or flax oil.  They tell me that they burp up the oil and can taste it afterwards. Usually this means that they are not digesting the fats and doing a gallbladder cleanse can help this process to allow them to digest fats correctly.  Unfortunately when we don’t digest fats, they just go rancid in our body which can cause rashes, or other toxic conditions in our bodies.

In Summary
There are many supplements that can assist with the gallbladder; it is best to talk with your health professional to find the best ones suited to your body.

Look past the symptoms and to the cause. Examine your feelings and their relationship to your health. Then take care of your body on a spiritual and physical level. Now is the perfect time let to go of your bitterness and find the forgiveness and joy you deserve for loving yourself and the people around you.

 

Kasara D’Elene MA, LMHC  is a Certified Herbalist with a degree in Science. She is owner & operator of Tru-Health LLC at 18001 Bothell-Everett Hwy.   www.truhealth.com 

 

Provided for informational purposes and not intended for self-diagnosis or treatment. Please consult the Health Practitioner of your choice to determine what will best assist you in your health.

 

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Healthy Choices for Healthy Teeth

Written by on August 1, 2011 · Leave a Comment

By Kasara D’Elene MA, LMHC

Having healthy teeth in this day and age is easy if you know what to do. Many people don’t realize that healthy teeth start with a healthy digestive system.

[W] hy a healthy digestive system you ask?  Well – if you don’t digest your food in the first place, how do you expect your body to get nutrients to your teeth to make them strong to work and prevent disease?

Watch What You Eat
By this I mean to eat foods that have nutritional value and actually feed your body. Many people think this is important just because of the plaque that can accumulate on our teeth.  However if you are eating the right foods, our digestive system can help strengthen our teeth from  the inside preventing a whole host of problems from cavities, to gum disease.  If you eat toxic food, it doesn’t just stay on our teeth, it also inhibits our cells from creating healthy new cells for our teeth and our whole body.

[A] nother way to accomplish this is by eating more alkaline foods.  Foods that are alkaline include most all vegetables and many fruits (there are a few fruits that are acidic) – and a few alkaline grains (millet, amaranth, quinoa, and wild rice). All other foods are acidic producing.  By this, I mean, the residue or ash that is left over after we eat/burn these foods. So for example, oranges may seem acidic, but they actually have an “alkaline ash” in our bodies after we eat them and are high in organic sodium for our bodies, which helps to neutralize acid that cause disease.

Acid Issues
If you have a jar of vinegar and put a chicken bone in the vinegar, what happens to it?  It will dissolve because the vinegar is acidic. The same thing happens to our teeth and bones if our body is too acidic.  Eating lots of fruits and vegetables can help to keep our body at the proper pH so that we don’t create an acidic environment, which can weaken our teeth.

Tooth chart
When I worked in California, I got a tooth chart from a holistic dentist that shows which organ is represented for each tooth.  Similar to reflexology, this chart helps to show people what organ in their body may be in need of assistance and is showing up as a weakness in a specific tooth.  Many people find it helpful in getting to the core of the issue with the tooth, instead of just pulling out the tooth, which of course doesn’t fix the core issue.  If the organ isn’t fixed along with the tooth issue, it will remain and most likely will cause problems later in the actual organ itself, if not somewhere else in the body.  So knowing what organ or body system is weak, and working to strengthen it will not only help that part of your body, but also that particular tooth as well.

Natural Remedies
There are many herbs and supplements that can be used to help people with teeth/gum issues.  One that is very common is myrrh.  Myrrh is used often in natural toothpastes, mouthwashes, and can also be taken internally as an infection fighter, as well as put on the tooth with the issue.  Another herb that some consider a stronger infection fighter is Golden Seal.  Again this can be taken internally, or put topically on the tooth especially for infection. Wild Lettuce is another herbs that is often used in the mouth, but this time mostly for pain.  This herb can help to numb tooth pain, until you can get to your local dentist.  One final supplement that works great for the teeth is CoQ10.  CoQ10 is especially good for healthy gums, but I have also heard of people turning around the health of their whole mouth, just by taking CoQ10. I know it is expensive, but it can totally be worth it to prevent future dental problems, and possibly help clean up some of the ones you may already have.

[A] nother product we can use for teeth issues successfully is an enzyme spray.  Enzymes help to repair the tissue, alkalize the area, and help to remove toxins from the damaged tooth. Colloidal silver is another product that is useful in helping teeth as well.  Many of my clients have found relief from teeth issues by mixing the colloidal silver and the enzyme spray together, swishing in the mouth, and swallowing – help the teeth and the body overall.

Mercury fillings
This is a hotly debated topic.  Mercury is a poison. Of course most dentists will tell you that this is not an issue, and there is nothing to worry about.  But of course if they told us there was something to worry about, any of us with this issue, would demand that they take this out of our mouths, carte blanche because they put something harmful in us in the first place – shouldn’t they take it out?  But the dental industry doesn’t think this way – and even dentists I know that do think it is an issue, charge quite a bit to take this harmful substance out the correct way.  I have also worked with many people to help have their fillings taken out in the right order.  We do this by using muscle testing (Kinesiology).  Some dentists now do this as well to help make sure the teeth are removed in the correct order to prevent what is called the “ghost effect” – similar to what happens when people lose an extremity.  They still “feel” the extremity, even though it is no longer there.  And the same can happen if you are having issues that the mercury is causing, and taking them out is good, but taking them out in the right order can be even better.

Fluoride
Another hotly debated topic is fluoride.  Fluoride is now put in so many toothpastes and mouthwashes and of course our drinking/cooking water.  It was put there to help prevent cavities, unfortunately it can cause many other problems. Fluoride is an ENZYME poison!  Well, now, doesn’t that just answer some questions?  You know what’s funny; they tell us not to eat the fish from certain lakes/oceans more than once a week if you are young or pregnant… because that fish is mercury contaminated from living there for a few years.  But somehow then it’s ok for the whole population to DRINK the “clean” water after it’s had fluoride, chlorine and more added to it.  In fact, on September 1, 2005, eleven unions representing more than 7,000 workers at the Environmental Protection Agency called for a national moratorium on programs to add fluoride to drinking water, citing what they call a possible cancer risk. J. William Hirzy, an EPA scientist and vice president of the National Treasury Employees Union, Local 280, said the agency should act now in light of allegations that a Harvard University dentistry professor downplayed research showing an increased risk of bone cancer for boys who drink fluoridated tap water.  Unfortunately it is still in most people’s water.  Fortunately there are companies like Custom Pure that have filters that pull out chlorine and fluoride out of the water. You can learn more about these filters at www.custompure.com, or you can often get water filters at health food stores as well.

Healthy solutions
There are so many good dental products on the market that contain healthy ingredients such as xylitol, which helps to prevent cavities and tastes great. If you eat a good diet, brush your teeth twice daily with a non-fluoride toothpaste, floss and even chew xylitol or peelu gums or candies, you can easily keep your teeth healthy.

[B]e sure to read the gum/candy labels and avoid the artificial sweeteners (asparatame, splenda, asulfamine postassium, etc.) as many companies add in small amounts of xylitol, but mostly contain these harmful sweeteners. Purchase 100% xylitol sweetened products instead. Your teeth will be happy you did.
Kasara D’Elene is a Master Herbalist, Health Counselor and gifted intuitive healer. She is owner of TruHealth, Inc., located at 18001 Bothell-Everett Hwy in Mill Creek.  Visit her website at www.truhealth.com or call 425-415-8410 or 1-800-242-7165.

 

 

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You Deserve Healthy Relationships – Moving Past Emotional Abuse

Written by on July 16, 2011 · Leave a Comment

by Kasara D’Elene MA, LMHC

Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse is the least talked about and most common form of abuse. Unfortunately in this society, much of what is considered normal and acceptable forms of communication are actually abusive. In our society it has been challenging to define emotional abuse, but internally when we are a victim to this behavior, we know that it does not feel good. Unfortunately, because of this thin cover of acceptance and the inability to define it adequately, many people may not realize they have been emotionally abused.  Emotional abuse is often overlooked or unrecognized as compared to physical or sexual forms of maltreatment.  However, emotional abuse often coexists with these other forms of abuse.
Emotional abuse has subtle patterns. No one enters a relationship knowing that they will be abused.  But many victims think they can fix their abusers and that the abuser just needs an understanding person that can help them correctly.  Unfortunately the abusers are masters of control and once a victim is caught, it can be very difficult to break free from the abuser.  I can assure you that you alone, will NOT be able to “fix” the abuser.  This is an impossible task for one person.  The abuser has been mastering their manipulative and controlling skills for many years and have habits of mind that make it difficult for them to imagine being in a respectful and equal relationship with a woman.  The abuser is very aware of their behavior and can turn it off when it suits them; you can read more about this in Lundy Bancroft’s book “Why Does He Do That; Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.”  There may be underlying psychological disorders as well which are best left to a qualified professional to assist with.

Can be a Cycle
Abuse often takes a form of a rotating cycle, where the abuse happens, and then things are better for awhile and the abuser apologizes and brings gifts, then abuse happens again.  Statistically there are so many women caught in this emotional abuse trap that it is disheartening. Just one of the many examples is a woman I’ll call ‘Aysha’.
Aysha talks about how Wendell abuses her, repeats himself, he swears constantly and she cannot get a word in edgewise. She finally stands up for herself forcefully and that is when he finally leaves.  So you may ask, why does Wendell think Aysha is the one who has been doing all the yelling and complaining? Because in his mind, she’s supposed to be listening, not talking.  If she expresses herself at all, that is too much…. Abusers often reduce their victims to inanimate objects.

It’s About Control
Emotional abusers use abuse to control their victims with teasing, threats, aggressive demands or expectations, insults, criticism, rejection, neglect blame, emotional manipulation and control, isolation, punishment, terrorizing and ignoring. Lundy Bancroft, an expert that works with emotionally abusive men, states that the great majority [of abusers] exhibit a subtle – though often quite pervasive – sense of superiority or contempt towards [their victims].   In addition, he states that many sexual and physical abuse survivors have stated that the emotional abuse they have experienced is more devastating and has longer-term effects.  In some ways manipulation is worse than overt abuse, especially when the two are mixed together. When a woman gets called a ‘bitch’, or gets shoved or slapped, she at least knows what her partner did to her. But after an [emotionally abusive] manipulative interaction she may have little idea what went wrong; she just knows that she feels terrible, or crazy, and that somehow it seems to be her own fault. In this country we have laws against other forms of abuse, unfortunately there are no laws against emotional abuse.

Many people feel trapped by their emotional abusers. They do not know how life would feel without fear, degradation and constraint. Everyone has choices, but for those that are emotionally abused, choices are difficult to recognize in the moment or aftermath of abuse leaving the victim to feel alone and isolated believeing they have  little choice at all. If you are always being controlled and manipulated it does not feel like you have choices when you have been educated that you have no power.

Treatment
It may be difficult at first to assist an emotionally abused victim because they typically deny that they have been emotionally abused because they do not recognize the emotional trauma as abuse. When someone tries to help the abused person, the helper might inadvertently say something that triggers the abused person’s past emotional abuse which might deter them from receiving help.  Abused people usually have an overtly resistant strategy with others who seem threatening or powerful.  If you know someone that has been emotionally abused, it is important to not discount their feelings and the emotions they have experienced especially because their abuse is not recognized by others leaving the victim feeling isolated and alone.
Research indicates that having just one supportive person can be the saving grace for anyone suffering from emotional abuse. Interviews with survivors indicate that the most important single survival factor was that each had at least one person who gave unconditional, positive regard; someone who thought well of them and made them feel important. If you ever ask an emotional abuse survivor what helped them the most, their answer most likely will be “Someone to talk to, to listen to me, to believe me.”
One treatment for the emotionally abused is strength building techniques to build resilience. These would best be tailored to each person by discovering the inherent strengths of the person and then building upon them. The focus should be on showing the abused person how to take time for themselves, working on raising their self-esteem and helping them to learn how to be responsible for themselves.

For those of us working with someone who has experienced emotional abuse here are some tools you may find useful.  If you are finding your way through a rough situation yourself these suggestions may be of assistance to you .  Gentle reflection. Beginning to give more praise, and focusing on positive attributes – not the flaws.  Realizing how self criticism does not help. Working on self-acceptance, and how to set reachable goals.  Learning to  define ourselves in new ways: gently discovering how to stop comparing ourselves to others, and develop an understanding of how to stop seeing ourselves in all-or-nothing terms. It is also important that we/they learn how to start nurturing ourselves. This intervention can assist  in how to take care of our/their body and promote the body’s ability to self heal by getting massages, manicures, and hugs.

Healing Journey
It is important to let the client (ourselves) know that learning to empower themselves is a process and that they will continue to change and grow over time.  The emotionally abused person has, in the past,developed a reliance on the abuser to tell them how they are feeling, what they like, and what their worth and value is as a person. As the abused person learns to look internally as opposed to externally, gaining self-reliance will help them begin a journey of improvement.

Emotionally abused victims experience various forms of loss that may not be obvious. These may include a loss of spontaneity, loss of enthusiasm, a loss of how they come across to others and the loss of being an important human being.  Victims also have a loss of self-confidence, loss of not being like others, loss of healthy relationships, an inability to come to conclusions, a loss of happiness, loss of feeling safe, of being worthwhile and the loss of knowing they have power over their own life.

All emotional wounds run deep, regardless of the timeline, and that is what makes emotional abuse so much worse than physical abuse.  Working to acknowledge the deep wounds and the subsequent grief from each loss can take considerable time. Uncovering each loss can be  a lot of work. Part of the process of recovery is the grieving of loss, and part of the grieving of loss is the recovery of the spirit. In life, much of what one grieves one never had.

Control vs Love
One researcher stated for example, the partner may realize she was never accepted by her mate [or parent] because of their overwhelming need to control and dominate her. Her grief would be an acknowledgement that a human need was not met – a value not attained.  She could not feel this kind of loss – the loss of what she never had – unless her spirit knew its needs and rights.  In this sense, grief is the conscious acknowledgement and realization of what the spirit already knows.  Through grief we consciously become aware of a value of the spirit and by grieving the loss, we recover in such a way that we integrate that value.  Thus we become more whole.  When the victim of verbal abuse realizes that she was not loved, only controlled, she grieves the lack of love because she knows that she is lovable.  Through that process she gains [the reality of] self-esteem.  She knows that she is worthy of love and respect.
A woman may never fully heal from the abuse she has experienced.  But because she remembers and when she becomes empowered, she will not suffer the agony again. She won’t be able to erase the wounds of abuse like pencil marks on the paper, but she will feel stronger from the scar tissue covering them.  Some milestones she may achieve include: fewer nightmares, less fear, increased self-confidence, greater skill in taking charge of her own affairs, feeling less of being a victim, and more the strength of a survivor, enjoying life more with her family and friends, learning to laugh again, to have fun, play and spend time in nature, changing from the rigidity of her previous life to the spontaneity of freedom, and feeling kinship with all people who suffer.

Because it is difficult for the emotionally abused to articulate what has happened to them, it has taken many years for this concept to be brought forth to professionals that can help do something about it.  Fortunately we know now that it is possible to define emotional abuse, and the power differentials between the abuser and the emotionally abused.  Now it is a matter of getting this information out to the public to prevent future generations from experiencing the effects of emotional abuse.  If you recognize any of this for yourself or someone else, please get help.

Kasara D’Elene M.A., LMHC  owns TruHealth, a health food store in the Mill Creek/Bothell area. She has helped empower and educate thousands of people to optimum health.  You can reach her at 425-415-8410  www.truhealth.com

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Yoga for YOUR Body Type

Written by on July 15, 2011 · Leave a Comment

By Juliet Jivanti

Defining Ayurveda
Many people have heard the word “ayurveda,” but may have only a nebulous understanding of what it involves. A sister science to yoga, ayurveda is a 5,000-year-old system of medicine that first evolved in India but is becoming increasingly popular in America.  Ayurveda is referred to as the knowledge or science of life and is a conjunction of two Sanskrit words: ayur “life” and veda “knowledge.”

The roots of ayurveda stem from the Vedic culture of ancient India. Handed down through teachers and writings, ayurveda influenced Hippocrates and the Greek system of medicine and is believed to be the only complete medical system still in existence that has been continually practiced since its inception. It encompasses diet, medicine, astrology, lifestyle, herbology, yoga, meditation, breathing techniques and home design concepts based on sacred geometry that preceded and hugely influenced the Chinese practice of feng shui.

Ayurveda offers a path to optimal health and development for each individual through its profound understanding of natural laws. Living with the cycles of nature maintains health and a disconnection from those natural cycles leads to disease. Going beyond symptoms to the root cause of the disease is where true healing begins. Balancing the body, mind and spirit allows us to understand the language of nature so that we can live harmoniously. Ayurvedic practices restore holistic health, resulting in self-healing, vitality and longevity.

The Three Doshas
According to Ayurveda, everything in the universe, including the human body, is composed of five elements: ether (or space), air, fire, water and earth. These elements come together in three dynamic biological forces known as the doshas: vata, pitta and kapha. Each person is a unique combination of all doshas, although some elements are more predominant. Therefore, each person must be treated individually according to their dosha or unique constitution.

Ayurveda believes that by balancing the various mind-body functions the natural intelligence of the body will respond by rebalancing itself. When we understand our one-of-a-kind, genetic make-up we can make adjustments in our daily practices and diet which will return us to our natural state of wellness.

Take a fun, informative questionnaire to determine your dosha, or what combination of doshas you are, at www.AyurvedicHealthCenter.com.

Characteristics of the vata dosha
Sanskrit root of vata is “vah,” which means vehicle, to carry or to move. Vata is a combination primarily of ether and air elements. The classic description of vata individuals is that they tend to have dry thinner skin, a light frame, cold hands and feet, rough nails, coarse kinky hair, talkative, quick movements, hyperactive or variable stamina and tend toward darker skin and eyes. Keep in mind that these are only general tendencies and are expressed differently for each person.Vata governs all movement. Functions of vata include movement of thoughts, ingestion, circulation, respiration, peristalsis, elimination.
The gunas, or qualities, of vata are dry, light, cold, rough, subtle, mobile. Imbalanced vata exhibits worry, fear, anxiety, dryness, gas, bloating, constipation, muscle cramps, joint pain, insomnia.
Balanced vata exhibits creativity, enthusiasm, flexibility.

Characteristics of the pitta dosha
Sanskrit root of pitta is “tapa,” which means heat. Pitta is a combination primarily of fire and water elements. The classic description of pitta individuals is that they tend to have higher body temperature, strong appetite, sharp mind, light colored, light sensitive eyes (often hazel, green or blue), frequently thirsty, have oily skin and hair (usually straight and blond), are focused, organized, driven and athletic. Keep in mind that these are only general tendencies and are expressed differently for each person. Pitta governs transformation.
Functions of pitta include metabolism, digestion, body temperature, appetite, thirst, color. The gunas, or qualities, of pitta are oily, sharp, hot, light, spreading, liquid. Imbalanced pitta exhibits anger, criticism, judgment, indigestion, heartburn, inflammation, diarrhea, rashes.
Balanced pitta exhibits understanding, intelligence, courage.

Characteristics of the kapha dosha
Sanskrit roots of kapha are “ka,” which means water, and “pha,” to flourish.Kapha is a combination primarily of earth and water elements. The classic description of kapha individuals notes they tend toward roundness and softness in the body and facial features, with cool, thick, soft skin. There may be a tendency toward fluid retention or excess mucus, slow digestion and movements with thick hair and large soft eyes. Keep in mind that these are only general tendencies and are expressed differently for each person.
Kapha governs structure. Functions of kapha include lubrication, nourishment, support, stability, growth, strength, repair, retention, taste. The gunas, or qualities, of kapha are heavy, slow, cool, oily, smooth, dense, soft, stable.
Imbalanced kapha exhibits attachment, greed, possessiveness, slow digestion, colds, cough, congestion, mucus, weight gain.
Balanced kapha exhibits love, compassion, forgiveness.

Personalize Your Practice
Ayurvedic yoga is personalized for each individual. Practicing yoga tailored specifically for your constitution brings you back to your natural balance. According to the principles of ayurveda, like increases like. Therefore, you may be drawn to a yoga practice that will increase the gunas, or qualities, that are already predominant in your nature. This is contrary to what is naturally balancing. For example, a pitta person may be drawn to intense, fast power yoga, when what he or she really needs to balance their constitution is a more peaceful, tranquil approach.

Ayurvedic yoga provides the means to modify your yoga practice based on your individual prakruti (innate constitution), vikruti (current constitution) and the three doshas (vata, pitta and kapha). Ayurvedic yoga is an all-encompassing practice which is equally applicable for beginners and seasoned practitioners of yoga.

Complimentary Approaches
The sister sciences of yoga and ayurveda are have complemented and enhanced each other since their inceptions thousands of years ago. While practicing one without the other is beneficial, it is similar to eating a nutritious diet without exercising – an incomplete approach to health. The synergistic union of yoga and ayurveda brings a holistic approach. The ancient practices of ayurveda support a foundation of strength, vitality and longevity of body and mind. Yoga, then takes us onward toward the path of self-realization. Yoga provides the key to spiritual development, which is the knowledge of our true nature.

Together, ayurveda and yoga provide the insight for each person to create a way of life in harmony both with the world of nature and our higher self.

Juliet Jivanti is a graduate of the Lad’s Ayurvedic Institute in New Mexico, a Certified Ayurvedic Consultant, Registered Yoga Teacher and Touch for Health Certified practitioner. For more information  and to sample and  order her DVD ‘Ayurvedic Yoga – Yoga for Your Body Type’ call 360.734.2396, see AyurvedicHealthCenter.com, Facebook or e-mail Juliet@AyurvedicHealthCenter.com.

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The Awesome Power of Fear

Written by on July 15, 2011 · Leave a Comment

By Peter Shankman
I like to think I know a little something about using your fear to create awesomeness. Back in the times of the caveman, fear was the one instinct that kept our species moving forward. When you were hungry, you had to kill something to eat. You didn’t have a choice. You went out and tried to kill dinner. If you didn’t, you’d starve.

History ….. Our Story
Of course you were scared. Saber-toothed tigers and giant wooly mammoths weren’t really looked upon as “friendly,” but you didn’t have a choice. So you went out and attacked. And if you were victorious, you got a kick-ass meal. If you weren’t, well, it didn’t matter. We used our fear to push us forward – to allow us to survive. And the chemical responses to fear – dopamine, adrenalin, they are just as strong now as they were then. In essence, fear gets us high. That “high” kept us alive, and helped push the species forward. You think it’s a coincidence that when we’re walking down a dark alley, our brains automatically dilate our pupils so we can see better? It’s built in. Back in the day, fear was considered a good thing.

However, as we moved from the era of the Mammoth to the McDLT, our concept of fear as a good thing changed, and today, has radically shifted. The majority of us don’t see fear as a good thing, we see it as something to be avoided at all costs.

Safe?
Examples of this abound – We take “safe jobs for the paycheck,” instead of striking out on our own. We quash our big ideas because we’re afraid they might fail. And probably more than ever before, we don’t follow our dreams because we’re “afraid what others might say.”

Sadly, we’ve become a society that’s crippled by the thought that someone, somewhere, (usually of much lesser mind) will call us out on what a bad idea we have, before we ever get the chance to prove it. As such, most of our great ideas die while still embryonic in our brains, killed by fear. The next airplane, the next space vehicle, the next life-saving device, or even the next brilliant marketing idea, all murdered by an unjust fear.

I came up with a name for this syndrome a few days ago, after reading an oddly vitriolic rant against me by a PR guy named Richard Laermer. He’d written a scathing piece against a new idea I’d come up with, an idea which had already been embraced by several high-profile, multi-million dollar companies around the globe. Because the idea was announced and hadn’t been implemented yet, he chose fear, sprinkled with inaccurate facts and slipshod reporting.
I call it “Getting Laermered.” (Rhymes with “hammered.”) Imagine coming up with a new great idea, and little ankle-biter mosquitos buzz all around you, shouting “this is bad. You’re stupid.” They’re nothing more than an annoyance, but an annoyance is still annoying.

You’ve gotten Laermered.
I believe that the fear we have of getting Laermered, whether by an angry old man, or even a real media outlet, holds us back from achieving the greatness that’s ingrained inside most all of us. I believe that the fear of getting Laermered holds us back as a people, as a country, and even as the human race. It’s time to change that.
With your permission, I’d like to offer some suggestions on how to get over the fear of getting Laermered.

Embrace Fear.
First and foremost, this is probably the most important piece of advice anyone’s ever offered. Note that I said “embrace,” and not “ignore.” As I said above, fear is with us for a reason. It’s built in to warn us against taking uncalculated risks. Mind you, not calculated risks. Calculated risks push us forward. Calculated risks are meant to be taken. The fear that our body involuntarily produces is designed to make us sharper, to make sure we’ve dotted all our “i’s,” and crossed all our “t’s.” Without fear, we wouldn’t exist. Calculated risks are the rocket fuel of our society.

Don’t ignore the fear.
 When you get that queasy feeling in the pit of your stomach, listen to it. It’s there for a reason. It’s telling you that you’re on the edge of something great, and you need to make sure all your ducks are in a row. You need to listen to your fear when you try something new. It’s not telling you not to do something, rather, it’s telling you to push forward, carefully, and without reckless abandon. Fear tells us to be aware, alert, and more cunning than our opponent. Embrace your fear, absorb its strength, and be stronger from it. Ignoring your fear is like being starving, and not eating the nutrient-rich meal placed in front of you. Eat your fear. It tastes good, and will make you stronger.

“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” -Albert Einstein. I can’t even begin to list how many times this rule has played out in my life, and in the world. “You’re starting a company and naming it The Geek Factory? What’s wrong with you? “You’re taking on PR News wire with something called HARO? You must be insane!” “You’re jumping out of a perfectly good airplane? Why would you do that?” “You’re training for an Ironman? What the hell is wrong with you?”

In the NOW
Remember – We no longer live in prehistoric times, and the general
consensus has become “play it safe.” This isn’t necessarily always good. When people don’t have the need to change, they usually don’t. It’s not until a fire is lit under most people’s butts that they ever consider abandoning their comfort zone. Want an example? When do you look hardest for a new job? When you’re unhappy with your current one, but still making a kick-ass salary, or when you’ve just been laid off, and you only have six months of savings?

If you want to achieve greatness, you can’t spend your whole life playing it safe. You need to take calculated risks, knowing that you might fail, but remembering that the upside to the possibility of failing is the possibility of succeeding beyond your wildest dreams. If the the options are risking getting Laermered, or not trying at all, I’ll take the risk of getting Laermered every single time.

If playing it safe works for you, if the steady paycheck and the cubicle suits your lifestyle, by all means, do it – I’d never have the temerity to tell you not to, as long as you’re happy. But if it doesn’t, if you believe you’re destined for more, then I can’t imagine anything sadder than not pursuing your dreams because of a fear of being ridiculed by a whiner.

Believe In YOURSELF
If you don’t first believe in yourself, don’t expect anyone else to believe in you, either. “As a composer, he is hopeless.” – A music teacher referring to Beethoven. After being cut from the Basketball team in high school, Michael Jordan locked himself in the locker room and cried. Winston Churchill failed the sixth grade. It goes on and on and on. The only voice you have to listen to without fail is the one inside. That voice silences doubt, it mutes the opposition, and it forces you to stand up and take action on your ideas. But only if you listen to it. All the examples above got Laermered, and they all rose way, way above it. You can too, but only if you listen to yourself first.

Pain is just weakness leaving the body. Jack Walston, a former Navy SEAL, and a man I’m proud to count as a friend, said that to me. It’s a quote from the Navy SEALs, and it’s so very true. A secret benefit to getting Laermered is the strength you can draw from it when it happens. Keep in mind, I’m not saying you should ignore everyone who offers advice. Some of that advice, that which comes from a trusted mentor, for example, is invaluable. But when it comes from someone who wants to keep you                  Continued bottom next page down for no reason, it’s up to you to draw strength from it. The intrinsic value you can gain from getting Laermered is worth a million times more than the person who Laermered you. But you need to be willing to draw out the value, and ignore the banal. Nothing upsets  a whiner more than finding out that you turned around the whine and became stronger from it.

Living a public life is more dangerous than staying private, but much, much more rewarding. I’ve always lived my life in public, to an extent. I talk about my ideas, I mention them for the world to see, because the reaction drives me. Good or bad, the reactions you get from announcing an idea can push you to a higher level of greatness.

As much as it pains me to reference any Tom Cruise movie, the fact is, Jerry McGuire didn’t achieve greatness until he announced that he had a better way of doing things. And the people who initially took great joy in mocking him? They wound up as roadkill. Great ideas always tend to prove the Tortoise and the Hare theory. In the beginning, the whiners are riding past you, shouting their insults. In the end? It’s you leaving them sucking wind on the side of the road.

Reaching Your Full Potential
Finally, If you weren’t doing something that could shake things up to begin with, you’d never be getting Laermered in the first place. Remember – thanks to the complacency we’ve created as a society, we’ve become ok with complacency. People fear change. That is wrong. Complacency leads to stagnation, which leads to failure. You must always keep moving forward. Use getting Laermered as a barometer. If you’re not getting Laermered every once in a while, perhaps you’re not reaching your full potential.

Visit Peter Shankman’s website at www.PeterShankman.com

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Mastering Time – You CAN Do It.

Written by on July 15, 2011 · Leave a Comment

by Cay  Randall – May

You are on the way to meet a friend for lunch. You’re running behind schedule and the other drivers seem to have joined in a plot to keep you from arriving on time. A glance at your watch confirms the sinking feeling in your stomach. How can you manage to keep your appointment?

Most people in this situation would drive faster and risk a speeding ticket, hypertension, or an accident. Schedule books, calendars, clocks and conventional time management schemes reinforce the view that time is a limited commodity which must be used efficiently. This is common sense, but unnecessarily stressful. There is a more natural, more spiritual approach to time management.

Another Way
To understand this other approach, we must look at time as relative, not absolute. Albert Einstein predicted that time is related to the speed of an object. This concept was a major challenge for the Western mind and still remains outside the ordinary experience of most people. Time may prove relative for future space travelers, but is that important on your way to the luncheon?

Yes, if only to remind us that we have some control over time. I’m talking about useful, usable time. The truth is, what we focus on, we perceive. We focus through our thoughts which are very much influenced by our physical and emotional state at the moment. Long ago I discovered that I could actually expand or contract my perceived time to accomplish more or avoid long tedious waiting periods.

Natural Resources
There is nothing magical about this approach. It is perfectly natural. Our stress level determines how fast or slow time seems to be moving. Extremes of emotional tension, shock, or even profound relaxation can distort time so much that it seems to not exist at all. But most of everyday life is spent in a lower level, chronic stress state that we can be calmed in various ways: prayer, meditation, deep breathing, yoga, walking, peaceful visualization. These approaches to relaxation clear our thoughts, make us feel safer, and we seem to have more time.

So, getting back to your immediate situation, you’re late for the lunch appointment with your friend. Most people would become tense, anxious. They would breathe in shallow gasps. Under pressure to get to their goal, they would not pay attention to their surroundings and this could lead to various mishaps.

Self Talk and Breathing
Instead, turn on soft, preferably classical music. Focus your attention on a positive statement, such as, “I have all the time I need.” Notice the small details around you, especially when driving or walking in crowded conditions. Breathe deeply and slowly.

Focus is the key to expanding time. The present is all we have, and we have all the time in the world to be in it. Agitation and anxiety distract us, waste our energy. Try the following demonstration if you need proof.

Ask a friend to time you as you try to guess when 30 seconds have passed. Cover your eyes during the test to avoid visual clues. Easy? Try it under two different conditions: first with some fast, rhythmic music; next with soothing, meditative music. Most people find they underestimate how long the time period is when listening to the fast music and are more nearly correct when the calm music is playing or in silence.

You can also try to guess a 30 second interval at different times of the day. Most people feel they have more time when they are fresh and calm; mood, blood sugar level, general state of health, and fatigue all play a part in time perception. Check your accuracy at different times of the day. If you are like most of us, you have periods during the day when you are fast or slow in your time sense.
If your time sense slows in the afternoon, for instance, you can listen to lively music or eat a high protein snack to compensate for the change in your body’s clock. That can help relieve the mid–afternoon slump that many people experience.

Coffee? Sugar?
But what about those times when you are called upon to work at peak performance? If you must write an essay, finish a report, or any other project with a tension–producing deadline there are some things you should know. Drugs, like caffeine or sugar, speed your sense of time. They make time seem to go faster.

Clutter does the same thing. Working in a small area heaped with papers, books, etc., drains energy and distorts time sense. Sensory overload of any kind will make time seem to go by faster.

Relaxation – Changing the Body’s Chemistry
Many spiritual disciplines and intuitive training programs include progressive relaxation, visualization, meditation and imaging which actually help to change the body’s chemistry. These practices expand usable time, stretch the ‘moment’ of perception. They allow us to be more observant of our outer and inner sensory input. Mastery of time perception is one of the best natural medicines and a useful tool for anyone who wishes to live life more fully.

Cay Randall–May is an internationally known Medical Intuitive and Healer. She teaches the principles of time expansion and many other techniques for self awareness and intuitive development in The Intuitive Pathway (TIP) program. email info@How2Heal.com for more information.

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